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On Our Year of Firsts

December 11th 2009 in Uncategorized

Dearest Daughter,

In less than one week, you will be one year old. I have no idea how it happened. I know I was present with you throughout most of it. I know I held you, fed you, drew over 300 bubble baths for you. I comforted you when you were sick; I sang songs to you when I couldn’t think of lyrics (I apologize for the night I couldn’t think of anything else except “White Trash Heroes”); and I let you pull hair after hair out of head, as you intentionally and methodically made sure to yank each one, place it gently on the ground with the pile of other hairs, and then return to my head in a very diligent and logical manner (you get that from your father).

The first day you laughed was March 12. You rolled at 15 weeks. You ate solids for the first time on Memorial Day weekend (peas), and you hated them (you get that from me). You independently sat upright around 6 months. You pulled yourself up exactly at 10 months. On November 1, I walked in on you standing in your crib for the first time.

And it was then that I knew it: I want nothing but the best for you.

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Why I Hate “Twilight” (or a treatise on how glorified codependency is totally not cool)

November 29th 2009

Anyone who knows me knows of my sense of linguistic perfection, character of overall independence, and past experience in education.

So when I was recently asked about (the) Twilight (”saga”) and its socio-cultural effect on tweens, teens, and beyond, I think it’s fair to say I unleashed my righteous fury on anyone who would listen.

The books and movies propagate codependency, glorify fragility, and condone intentional weakness in girls and women. The stories exalt passive observation and reactions instead of active participation in the events of one’s life and exemplify (if not demand) altruism over the autonomy inherent in being a human person.

That makes me sick. It contradicts all my ethical principles and values (those which I want to instill in my daughter).

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On Principle and Practice

April 12th 2009

First of all, let me say upfront that I know this place totally needs a makeover. I’ll be lucky if I get to it this year. In fact, I’m lucky that I can even write right now, given that my daughter has decided to go from Perfect Baby to Fussy Baby in less than 24 [...]

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Rational Moms (and a small update)

March 5th 2009

I’ve been blogging over at Rational Moms. What a fine group of ladies we have over there! Everyone should check them out.
And no, I promise I’m not turning into some woman whose biggest dilemma is figuring out the difference between periwinkle and baby blue, and I won’t be changing all my screennames to Mommy2LuLu2009, but [...]

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The Purpose of Fiction

January 8th 2009

I have never had the opportunity to read “good” fiction, or maybe I have and I’ve forgotten it. I’m not even sure what that judgment call really means, what good fiction is, and I know it’s fairly subjective and probably comes across as condescending. After all, how can I judge what “good” fiction is if [...]

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Underlying Ethics of the Current State of the Economy

January 8th 2009

At the base level of this entire economic crisis, recession, or whatever else people call the escalating national deficit, loss of income, hurting families, and overall lacking happiness, it is the ethical system people have structured their lives around that has caused such a tumultuous period for the American people and, now, the global economy.
Someone [...]

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Lucidia Has Arrived!

December 26th 2008

I ended up having a c-section, so I’ve been resting all week, but Lucidia arrived on December 18th at 8:59 pm. She was 8 pounds, 6.6 ounces and 19.75″ long. Tons of photos and stories are available on her website, but here are a few of my favorite pics:

as soon as she was born (one [...]

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I Am Still Pregnant

December 15th 2008

Yes, yes it is truer than the truthiest truth.
I am still pregnant. I am ready to pop, but here I sit with an enormous belly, swollen everythings, and a brain I am sure has diminished in size in the last 9 months, which is why you have not heard much from me in the past [...]

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Is It Historic Because He’s Black?

November 17th 2008

I don’t agree with Obama on everything; in fact, I disagree with major portions of his political promises. I didn’t vote for him, however, based on my level of agreement with him. I didn’t vote for him because he’s a Democrat, he’s a senator, or even because I think he’s good-looking.
I voted for him because [...]

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